Posted by: MarlaHB | April 28, 2009

Authenticity on the road…


“Be spontaneous but not impetuous.” Kay Lovatt in A Woman’s Spirit


My husband and I recently returned from a trip to Mexico. It was our first time away from our daughter (she’s 8 years old) for more than a couple of nights, so it was an extraordinary process for us all.


Deciding to travel as a couple versus a family was a spontaneous act. But it wasn’t an easy decision. My ego challenged me every step of the way:


  • You’re being selfish.
  • What if your plane crashes and your only child becomes orphaned? How could you do that to her and create such chaos in her life? 
  • You should be spending the money on something more practical.
  • What a waste of time. What if you don’t get something useful out of it? You should be focussing on getting a job instead.
  • You’re taking advantage of your mom (asking her to babysit). She can’t say no to you.
  • It’s not fair. You should go as a family.

As the instigator of this trip, ultimately I just had to trust my intuition and go for it, attempting to quiet the fear and negativity.


Leaving was extremely emotional and it got to the point where I questioned the choice to go so much that I seriously considered cancelling at the last minute. That choice would have been impetuous.


Everyone in tears and full of uncertainty, we drove away.


And guess what? It ended up being positive for us all.


My daughter was able to create special memories with her Granny who lives on the other side of the country. She also gained confidence in knowing that she is safe in this world even when we are not with her (although she’s clear that this is not her preference).


My mom was so grateful to have the chance to be a “hands on Granny” – the first time she’s had the opportunity for any length of time since my daughter was a baby. As such, they got to know each other in a deeper way.


My husband had a chance to truly relax in far too many years. He also had the opportunity to see me relax into my self. It was intoxicating for both of us to be in each other’s company in this way.


There was a time in our lives when we would go on adventures together. See new places. New things. But we have let those times fade into our history in exchange for what we have told ourselves “responsibility” looks like. This trip was a timely reminder that, if we don’t take care of our relationship as a couple – to share our authentic selves with each other, everything else will fall apart anyways.


In hindsight, we know that our Mexican journey was a great investment. It felt good to be away from it all. And it felt good to be coming back home to people and a location that we love.


Back into the routine, we’ve got some tweaking to do. But, all is well. No regrets. My Higher Self has proven once again that it can be trusted. Life is good.


“A ship is safe in harbour, but that’s not what ships are for.” William Shedd



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